It’s Over?

What makes someone just stop corresponding?  I mean it’s fine when it’s just been a few casual E-mails and then it drops off naturally, but when you’ve been talking for weeks and they just disappear on you, it’s unnerving.  I feel like I should get an exit interview or something.

I’ve had a few (can I even call them relationships?) like this and I’ve always wondered if it was something I did?  I guess that realistically it probably wasn’t me.  More than likely life just got in the way and they were too busy…but on the other hand, aren’t I worth the effort of a E-mail…even if it’s just to say ‘sorry, this isn’t going to work out’?

The first was probably B.  When we first started talking he’d send these long lovely messages 4 or 5 times a week.  Once we became partners the messages started to dwindle off a little bit, but it also was his busy time a work so I didn’t really think much about it.  And then after a few times together I just didn’t hear from him at all.  Ever again.  It didn’t bother me much, after our second or maybe third time together I knew the relationship wasn’t going anywhere.  But what pisses me off is I left a pair of glasses at his place!  You think he would have a least had the decency to return them!

J was the one that hurt the most.  We had been writing back and forth for couple of months, ongoing conversations in long rambling messages about everything in our lives.  He was having some computer issues so we tried texting and calling, but we had a hard time connecting.  I was so excited to meet in person, I knew we would hit it off.  And then all of the sudden he was gone.  No explanation, just gone.

F wasn’t really a relationship, more of a flirtation I kept trying to fight off.  He was young and gorgeous and engaged.  And did I mention young?  When he approached me, I spent the first week or so trying to explain that I wasn’t right for him.  The circumstances just wouldn’t work.  But he wore me down and we ended up sending hotter and hotter messages back and forth for weeks.  After a while that wasn’t enough for me anymore and I gave in to his demands to meet…and then he was gone.  Poof.  I figure he chickened out, was all talk.  But then months later he contacted me again…and then promptly disappeared…again…

S was the latest.  He was really nice and in very similar circumstances as I am.  We corresponded for a while and I thought we were getting ready to meet, when suddenly there was only silence from him.  Until this week-end, when I opened my inbox to a new message from him.  He apologized for leaving me hanging like that and explained that life had gotten in the way.

So now what do I do?  Do I try it with him again?  I’m a little worried about trust…it’s hard enough to open yourself up to someone and then have them leave on you.  I don’t know if I could handle it a second time.


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