This happens so often, I can’t even get upset about it anymore.

About six weeks ago I received a message through FetLife from a guy who seemed a little interested in me.  We exchanged a few E-mails and he indicated that he’d like to get together, but there was something listed on his profile that just didn’t sit well with me, so I politely put him off.

Okay, I just realized I can’t end that paragraph like that, it’s not fair to leave you wondering, but I’m embarrassed about it. I sort of feel like I’m prejudiced or something.  And it’s not even that big of a deal, but it wasn’t something I felt I could handle at the time.

His profile lists that he is bi/hetroflexible.  And I just felt…I don’t know…I guess I am insecure enough about myself as it is, I really don’t need another sex as competition.

Anyway, a few weeks ago he contacted me again.  I explained why I was so hesitant before, and he explained in more detail what bi/hetroflexible meant to him.  So I thought about it some more and realized that since it turns me on to see two guys together, maybe this wouldn’t be such a bad thing after all…and a really good way to have my guy/guy/me threesome fantasy!

So we kept exchanging messages (and some naughty pictures), and I slipped “it’ll have to wait until we meet”, into one of the E-mails.  He seemed open to the idea of meeting in person and a few messages later I received this:

“so u think u would like me to fuck you?”

I have to admit, I giggled a little when I read that.  But I quickly responded:

“Wow, I’m blushing over here!  You seem pretty sexy to me, but I think I’d like to get to know you a bit more first…”

Apparently the ‘getting to know you’ isn’t on the menu.  It’s been five days and I haven’t heard a thing back from him.  Is getting to know someone a bit before having sex really that bad of a thing?  I guess so.

And it’s not like he didn’t read my FetLife profile, which specifically states what I’m looking for…and trust me, it doesn’t include a quickie, one night stand, fling, quick fuck, or any other euphemism you can think of.

Hmmm, maybe I should go back and see just how many of my previous E-mail connections ended after a suggestion of getting to know each other better.  Maybe I’m just not worth knowing.



  1. Dennis Said:

    Nothing wrong in getting to know someone before you have sex. But yes I can tell you are worth getting to know. Hang in there girl to get what you want.

  2. I don’t know…maybe my thoughts aren’t in line with what people are looking for today…maybe if I want to have a sexual relationship with someone, that’s all it can be, sexual.

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